Mom lessons – How deferring to your dog and consulting with your kids can bring you clarity!
If you find yourself in a situation where you are pushing to make something work to no avail… look no further than to your furry friends or those beautiful little beings that you’ve created for a hand! As adults, our life experience tends to lead us into trying to make things work even if they just aren’t. We try to look for the good in even the worst of situations. This is not necessarily a bad thing, however one must know when to say when! In moments like these, I look to my dog for a reaction or sit and have a chat with my kids. After all, they can’t be fake. What you see is what you get and they are not afraid to tell you the truth, whether you like it or not.
You can’t pick and choose when you want your kids to be authentic and honest. They don’t know how to be any other way.
They say that dogs and kids have a sixth sense. I truly believe this. Have you ever been somewhere and your kids hide behind your legs? They “feel” something that makes them uncomfortable. Their intuition is telling them what to do! Teach them to trust it. Dogs too. They know who they like and who they don’t.
We were at a Christmas party a few years ago with my youngest who was 8 at the time. We didn’t have a babysitter so she tagged along. It was your typical company Christmas party. My daughter was talking to people and having fun, next the dinner was served and finally the drinks started flowing. I looked over at my daughter and she had tears in her eyes! Shocked, I wrapped my arms around her and asked her what was wrong. She said “I don’t feel safe any more and the energy changed in the room.” Out of the mouth of my very own little baby girl came something so pure and honest. In a split second I had to make a decision to either say to her “oh honey, you are fine you’re with Daddy and I… nothing’s wrong” or I needed to honor her instinct and leave. My mom mind fast forwarded to my daughter at a teen party being confronted with peer pressure, alcohol, and who knows what else. I wanted her to learn to trust her gut and even in that situation know that it is ok to walk away and stay true to who you are. So, I told my husband that she and I were going to leave and we would come back to get him. He asked why and I filled him in. Then he too agreed and we said our goodbyes. The next morning my daughter said “thank you for leaving last night. I felt better knowing you supported me.” I told her that I was so proud of her for speaking up and listening to her inner voice.
It just goes to show that some life lessons come at the craziest times and from the most unexpected people!